Dating & Anxiety 101
Sometimes there is something wrong and we don’t know why. Can’t explain it. Sometimes we feel like crying for no apparent reason at all – Don’t ask us questions, just give us a cuddle.
We don’t want to be a burden. We sit in silence. Our minds are going a million and one miles an hour.
We are not ignoring you, it’s just our heads are loud enough as it is.
Don’t avoid talking, it will only make the relationship more difficult.
We ramble, a lot! Once we get started you can’t stop us. You’ll just have to listen.
Something about having so much nervous energy makes us people with anxiety more likely to spill our deepest, darkest secrets to an innocent victim. Things we probably shouldn’t have said.
Sometimes, when I’m super anxious, I can be a total bitch from hell. I don’t mean to act that way.
STOP APOLOGISING FOR STUPID SHIT YOU DIDN’T EVEN DO WRONG… I’m sorry for being sorry.
Erratic thoughts are a regular occurrence. We can’t help it. Overthinking is our speciality.
What if they don’t like me? What if they think I’m weird? What if they don’t understand? What if I’m too much? What if they don’t text me back? What if my anxiety ruins our relationship? What if they are lying to me?
You don’t have to deal with your anxiety alone. If the person you are dating is decent they will understand and will help and support you.
Most people will respect your honesty, especially if you don’t pretend to be embarrassed about it, and those that do not respect your honesty are probably not people with whom you want to start a relationship. It’s helpful to simply let the other person know what you are experiencing.
It’s okay not to be okay!
Reassurance is important. Encouraging the person to talk and or seek help. Always listen. Acknowledge their progress and achievements no matter how big or small. Be patient. Know their triggers.
Don’t make them feel bad for having anxiety. Don’t try to be their therapist. Don’t dismiss their feelings. Don’t blame their anxiety. It’s not their fault.
We just need love like anybody else.